My thoughts on Homestuck and whatnot.
Cornbread, Homestuck, and Me.
Before any of y’all start sending me mail about Homestuck and so forth, let me say my two cents. I have grown to accept it for what it is.
I always hate when something gets popular and people throw it in my face for me to read or watch it. I will automatically hate on it because I do not like being told what to do in that way. When the popularity of it dies down, then I will get into it. Which is one of the reasons why it took me forever to get into NARUTO.
But every so often, something popular will come along, take over the cons, and then move along. Examples of NARUTO, Bleach, Final Fantasy, One Piece, Vocaloid, and Hetalia. And now we have Homestuck. But somehow Homestuck just appeared out of nowhere. Truthfully, it’s not appealing to me in the ways of cosplay, which is part of the reason why I never bothered. Also, I have noticed that a lot of Homestuck cosplayers are quite rude, along with the fact that they have this uppity attitude at conventions. Another reason why congoers abhor them. But I do know that not all are bad, the problem is that they’re the minority in the fandom.
Case in point, I was at NYCC 2012 and I saw a Homestuck/Sailor Moon hybrid cosplay group. That alone shot the hairs up on my neck. But I decided to be nice and ask them for a photo. The leader of this group responded with, “We don’t have time for a photo for you”, which was said an in a very condescending and arrogant tone. Now I will hear “I can’t right now”, “Not right now, but later”, or anything else along those lines. I get it, I understand it. But when you snap at me with such the freaking holier than thou attitude, I will not ever bother with a second chance, I got better things to do.
I had gotten into a pissing contest with someone over Homestuck. I flat out said that I don’t like it and they’re annoying. I was then asked if I had read any of it, which I did not. She said that I had no room to judge because of that. Let me just say this… It’s pretty easy for me to judge when your fandom act like arrogant assholes who think they’re better than anyone else. With that mindset, why should I even give it a fair shot?
Skip ahead a few months later where this same person asked me why I wanted a picture of her when I was at a con. I am a cosplay photographer. It is my job to take a diverse collection of cosplay phtotos. Now at this con, there wasn’t a lot of cosplay, so you have to take what you can get. Don’t take it personally babe, but I was filling space on my camera.
But with all things that annoy me, I just shrug, let it go, move on and say fuck it. With my BFF getting into the series, there wasn’t much else to do but accept it for what it is. So I tolerate it, I won’t knock the fandom unless I have to. I just don’t feel like having to put a fight about it. I do not care to read any of the comics or the stories behind it, so please don’t ask me to do so.
#Anime, #Bleach, #Conventions, #Cosplay, #Fandoms, #FinalFantasy, #Homestuck, #Naruto, #Tolerance
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So, if you’ve been wondering why I’ve been in a bit of a mood, read this post and see. - http://djranmas.net/2013/10/its-later-never-goodbye/
It’s Later, Never Goodbye.
Thursday night, I get a text from my friend Claire. She said that due to a life-changing event that we shouldn’t be friends anymore. It’s far and few that I receive a message like that. My heart was racing, I felt the blood drain from my face. I was panicking, trying to figure out what I did that caused this to happen.
But as it is in most cases, I wasn’t at fault.
Two years ago I went to the dance at AnimeNEXT. I saw this pretty girl and I decided to take a shot in the dark and ask her to dance. I wasn’t looking for anything besides that because I was in a relationship at the time. So, we hit it off pretty well and got together the next night to dance. On Sunday we exchanged phone numbers and kept in touch.
Needless to say, she found me attractive and really liked me. But due to our schedules, it was hard for us to meet until July. She was coming into the city and she wanted to go out on a date. I was very hesitant about that because me and my now ex had taken a break on our relationship, trying to figure things out. We did go out on a date, but I never told her why I was very hesitant about it. We went out again in September before she left for Atlanta. She was accepted as a flight attendant for Delta, and she left for training.
For what it’s worth, we both kinda wanted to make it work, but we both were going in different directions. So we kept it friendly. It was hard for me to keep my feelings in check with her because I truly liked her a lot, and in my mind’s eye, she was PERFECT. She knew I felt this way, and she’d remind me at times that we couldn’t be more than just friends. I knew this, and she understood that I tried to keep things in check.
In September, on my way back from AWA, we met briefly. Who would have thought that it would be the last time I’d ever see her again. She was stationed in Hawaii, because she was doing trips to Japan. We would Skype date from time to time. She did make it to the East Coast a few times to visit her family. It kinda/sorta bothered me about, but I didn’t let it get to me. I focused on school and work and we’d text on occasion.
Claire mentioned that she wanted to transfer to NYC because her mom was lonely. I thought that maybe we could try to make things work. I thought about that and decided to put that thought away because that’s the future. I needed to work on the now. So as I said, I would text her to see how she’s doing. Due to the international flights and the time zone, I never expected a response right away. I never expect a response from my friends immediately either. I know that we’re all busy people.
And then boom, that text. I archived it to my computer and deleted it from my phone. I also deleted my call log because I saw her face pop up. She said that I am a great person and felt that she could never reciprocate the high levels of energy I needed. I never thought I was a high energy person.
Yesterday, with a help of a few friends, I talked about the situation and right now, I somewhat feel that I can move on. I did text her back if I’m gone from your life to at least give me a reason for it. No answer. At this point, most people would just walk away and move on. But honestly, I can’t. It’s not in my nature to give up so easily. But for now, I’m going to have to. I hate it, but that’s what it is.
One my theories as to what happened is that Claire might have met someone, and felt that being friends with me would complicate life. Or maybe she got knocked up from a one-night stand or something worse, feeling that me being in her life would complicate things, knowing that she still has feelings for me.
I do hope that after some time has passed that she’d come around and look me up. I thought about posting a picture of the two of us on here, but I’d rather not, it might undo the progress that I have made with this situation.
Well Claire, I don’t know if you or a friend will see this, but know that you will always have a part of my heart. You entered my life at a time that I truly appreciate it. I love you for who you are and never stop believing in yourself. No matter what, I will always be here for you no matter what. I will not say goodbye to you because it isn’t. I will see you later, that I promise you.
Ja mata ne, Claire-chan.
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New Post has been published on http://djranmas.net/2013/10/stand-up/
The main reason why I am writing about this is because I had found about a couple of friends of mine who had to deal with bullying.
It’s no secret that I was bullied as a kid. I was told that “stick and stones may break your bones, but names never hurt me.”
Whoever said that is a bold faced liar. The truth is that names do hurt. And they can cause an emotional trauma. To this day, there is a particular nickname that I will never repeat where if I heard it, I will lash out and lose it. That insult cut me deep. But the name calling got so bad that I would never go outside to play because once one person started, so did everyone else. Staying indoors wasn’t that bad, since I had a Nintendo to play with.
It go so bad that I started taking karate lessons to defend myself. And that was something that was instilled in me. I learned to stand up for myself and not take it. I never attacked anyone, but when someone would insult and attack me, I was ready.
You’d think that if I ignored the bullies, they’d leave me alone. Nope. That would give them cause to keep up with the insults that would lead into physical altercations. After defending myself a few times in school, it died down.
In high school it got worse. I was always called Steve Urkel, and I hated that because that was not me. I got into screaming fights over it. People started to back off because they saw I wasn’t a timid, pushover kid. I was mad as hell and I wasn’t taking it anymore.
Then that fateful day happened.
I got in a fight with someone who called me that one name I hated. I chased him into a classroom and fought him. I won’t get into details, but watch this clip here from A Christmas Story as an example:
Since then, I was left alone.
In today’s world, we have anti-bullying laws and programs to mentor, teach, and change bullies. These things don’t always work. What’s happening is that these laws and programs are continuing to keep our kids in the dark about what going on. Seriously, if you’re being bullied, don’t just tell a superior, stand up for yourself. All ignoring does is adds fuel to the fire. Most bullies won’t back down unless you confront them. Sometimes you have to.
So the next time you’re being bullied, stand up for yourself. Use your words to fight back. But don’t throw your fists up unless the bully does first, and remember to defend yourself if it comes down to it.